When You Have Kids…

Girls,

It is hard being a Mom and Dad with both of yall so close in age.  I know as we get older, struggles and hard times now will be replaced with different types of struggles and hard times.  But here are some things that I want you to remember when you become parents…

Just live for tomorrow….

People always tell us things or sometimes we will say things like “just wait until they can do this” or “I wish she could do this”.  I think people sometimes, unintentionally, encourage us to look forward to all of the things that are coming that we fail to stop and see what we have in front of us.  Just live for the moment you are in each day.  I can already see how fast the days are going to pass and I don’t want to rush a single moment.

Feel your way through it…

People are going to tell you what to do when you have kids, including me.  Take each piece of advice with a grain of salt and then do YOUR thing.  Just be.  Follow these golden rules and you will be ok…feed the baby, change the diapers, hold them too much, and give them way too many kisses.  Everything else will play itself out.

Here is the biggest piece of advice I can give you….

Never forget that “a last” is coming….

Here is what I mean…when I get flustered because I’m in a rush and I’m changing a diaper, I pause and tell myself that one day I will change a diaper for the last time…could this be it?  It would be sad if I spent that last time being rushed or upset.  I wish I knew the  last time Avaleigh was going to be in her jumper, I would have paused a second longer to TRULY see  her.  I wish I knew the last time she was going to be crawling….I would have cherished it a little more.  I know that there is a last day coming when you will not want to sit in my lap or snuggle with me, that’s why I try to make sure we do that every day.  When you are changing the diaper, just remember you are changing the diaper of the best creation you ever made, your child…you are changing the diaper of your child.  Allow yourself to get lost in the moments before the moments are lost, forever.